'Some people don't like me" "Bad things will happen to people I love" "I'm going to fail"
... these words underpinned my anxieties and nightmares. I bet they feature in yours too. Our
fears are anchored in the unavoidable truths of life all things reach an end bad things
happen and we lack the control we crave. As an experienced psychotherapist who's had years
of therapy I realised that ploughing endless energy into trying to control the uncontrollable
is keeping us all tired wired and worried. Ignoring fears doesn't make them less true it
makes them more powerful. I decided to try a different tact and it changed my world. Instead
of doing everything I could to ease and avoid life's uncomfortable truths I sought a deeper
acceptance of them. Through using this approach my clients and I discovered that fear began to
loosen its grip. We were living more intentionally and peacefully. So face your fears one a
chapter at a time and discover who you are without worry doubt and people-pleasing holding
you back.
