A groundbreaking book on the surprising potential of sharing more of ourselves with others
with profound impacts on our personal and professional relationships from a celebrated Harvard
Business School professor and leading expert on personal disclosure decisions. Do you
overshare divulging way more personal information than a situation warrants? Or do you err on
the side of silence even when it means passing up an opportunity for making an authentic
connection? We're constantly deciding how much to disclose about ourselves and what we’re
thinking and feeling. The decision of how forthcoming to be can be difficult even
excruciating. For over fifteen years behavioral scientist and Harvard Business School
professor Leslie John has been studying the choices we make every day—at work and at home with
our spouses friends colleagues and even strangers—about how much to reveal about ourselves.
A growing body of research shows we vastly underestimate the value of oversharing. Often when
an epic overshare leaves us cringing with shame the person we’ve shared with is actually happy
to have been confided in. Yet so many of us have come to see what would be beneficial
disclosure as TMI. Getting disclosure decisions right has a powerful effect on your daily
happiness your relationships your career and your health. Sharing more freely can improve
your mental and physical wellbeing. Likewise undersharing can deprive you of opportunities to
build friendships gain the trust and support of colleagues and employees and maybe even to
find a life partner. Revealing equips readers with the awareness to make even the
thorniest of disclosure decisions with aplomb. John offers the latest scientific insights about
how to hone your self- and situational awareness so that in any given moment you can make a
good decision about just how much you want to share and why.
