In the early hours of dawn in Amsterdam Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend's bed. She gets
dressed slips away with a kiss and cycles home where she is welcomed into the arms of her
husband whose contentment is mellow alongside her own. There isn't a glimmer of shame
deception or guilt only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible -
even if it wasn't always this easy. You might have questions. Whose idea was it? What are the
rules? Are you ever jealous? In this memoir Deepa offers her answers openly and tenderly as
she explores the truth to questions of her own. Can I ask for what I want and still honour the
life I have chosen? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it? Unexpectedly relatable and joyfully
vibrant this is one woman's story of discovering her own desires and how to liberate them of
shifting identities from mother to lover and back again and of finding the courage to ask for
the marriage she wanted beyond the marriage she had. One question at a time.
