You're Not Listening is New York Times contributor Kate Murphy's eye-opening wake-up call about
the worldwide epidemic of not listening. "If you're like most people you don't listen as
often or as well as you'd like. There's no one better qualified than a talented journalist to
introduce you to the right mindset and skillset-and this book does it with science and
humor."-Adam Grant #1 New York Times bestselling author of Originals and Give and Take
**Hand picked by Malcolm Gladwell Adam Grant Susan Cain and Daniel Pink for Next Big Ideas
Club** "An essential book for our times."-Lori Gottlieb New York Times bestselling author of
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone When was the last time you listened to someone or someone
really listened to you? At work we're taught to lead the conversation. On social media we
shape our personal narratives. At parties we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We're not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology
allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect it seems no one is really
listening or even knows how. And it's making us lonelier more isolated and less tolerant than
ever before. A listener by trade New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we
got here. In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive Murphy explains why we're
not listening what it's doing to us and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible
the psychology neuroscience and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of
the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent focus group moderator bartender radio
producer and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation scientific exploration
and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice You're Not Listening is to
listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It's time to stop talking and start
listening.
