• ”To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children… to leave the world a bit better… to know even one life breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.”Ralph Waldo Emerson (S. 123)• “Success should not be measured by financial gain; true success is doing something you love for a living. Learn every aspect of your chosen field or craft, as it will give you an advantage over any competitors, and set you up for more – often better – job opportunities.”Tony Hawk (S. 299)• “Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued…. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to list to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run – in the long-run, I say! – success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.”Viktor E Frankl (S. 561)…so beschreiben verschiedene Persönlichkeiten „wahren“ Erfolg. Das kann ich genauso unterschreiben – diese Zitate sagen wirklich aus, was Erfolg bedeutet. Tim Ferriss hat in seinem neuen Buch „Tribe of Mentors“ wieder ein Meisterwerk abgeliefert. Der Kern dieses Buchs besteht darin Grüßen in unterschiedlichen Feldern 11 spezielle Fragen zu stellen. Diese können dann auf die antworten, die ihnen am meisten zusagen. Außerdem nützt er auch Absagen mit Zusage der Verfasser, um diese zu zitieren und den Leuten beizubringen wie sie richtig Nein sagen, denn das müssen viele lernen. Da sehr viele Menschen geantwortet haben, ist ein neuer Wälzer mit über 500 seinen entstanden. Da ich schon lange nichts mehr zu dieser Gruppe beigetragen habe, starte ich gleich mit einem langen Post. Und ja ich lese und rezensiere wieder (aufgrund von Wettkämpfen und Urlaub, habe ich mein Pensum deutlich heruntergeschraubt) – also in Zukunft wird wieder einiges von mir kommen :DDas ist sind die 11 Fragen, welche er stellt:1. What is the book (or books) you’ve given most as a gift, and why? Or what are one to three books that have greatly influenced your life?2. What purchase of $100 or less has most positively impacted your life in the last six months (or in recent memory)? My readers love specifics like brand and model, where you found it, etc.3. How has a failure, or apparent failure, set you up for later success? Do you have a “favourite failure” or yours?4. If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it – metaphorically speaking, getting a message out to millions or billions – what would it say and why? It could be a few words or a paragraph. (If helpful, it can be someone else’s quote: Are there any quote you think of often or live your life by?)5. What is one of the best or most worthwile investments you’ve ever made? (Could be an investment of money, time, energy, etc.)6. What is an unusual habit or an absurd thing that you love?7. In the last five years, what new belief, behaviour, or habit has most improved your life?8. What advice would you give to a smart, driven college student about to enter the “real world”? What advice should they ignore?9. What are bad recommendations you hear in your profession or area of expertise?10. In the last five years, what have you become better at saying no to (distractions, invitations, etc.)? What new realizations and/or approaches helped? Any other tips?11. When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, or have lost your focus temporarily, what do you do? (If helpful: What questions do you ask yourself?)Jeder der mal eine einzigartige Person kennenlernt, kann ihm ja diese Fragen stellen und ich bin überzeugt, dass er daraus etwas lernen kann. Da ich selber sehr viel aus dem Buch mitgenommen haben, zitiere ich nun Zitate aus verschiedenen Bereichen, welche mir am meisten zugesagt haben, mir gefallen haben oder mich tief berührt haben.RELATIONSHIPS / PEOPLE• “Make sure I’m dedicating my time to the right people with the question, “Is this someone I might be thinking about when I’m on my deathbed?”“Make sure I’m spending enough high-quality time with the people I care about most with the question, “If I were on my deathbed today, would I be happy with the amount of time I spent with this person?” An alternative is thinking about other people’s deathbeds – “If X person were on their deathbed today, how would I feel about the amount of quality time I’ve spent with them?”Tim Urban (S. 48)• “I see meeting new people as the opportunity to open a new door to a new world that could change my or their life in some way. Seeing someone’s picture allows me to visualize their intentionality and unleashes more creative ideas about what we can discuss and how I may be able to help them. It also lets me access whether I have a “full-body yes” to actually seeing them and opening this new door, and if I don’t then I take my hand off the door handle.”Graham Duncan (S. 61)• “Over the last couple decades, I’ve noticed that the best, most enduring partnerships in business (and in life) are among people who constantly growing together. If the person you choose to depend on is constantly striving to learn and improve, you too will push yourself to new levels of achievement, and neither of you will feel like you have settled for someone you eventually outgrow.”Max Levchin (S. 94)• “Aniela and I have been married for 38 years, and we still have lots to talk about. We also have a tradition. At noon, we stop working and prepare ourselves for our date. After taking showers and dressing in our favorite clothes, we head to our favorite local restaurant. As soon as we walk in, the entire staff welcomes us with a smile and we head to our favorite table, guided by the chatting host. He offers a menu and a bottle of sparkling water while Aniela reads the menu. She chooses a different lunch each time, but I stay with the same appetizer (French fries) and a double vodka for my entrée with a plate of veggies on the side. I love our dates. Nothing is better than sitting with your wife after 42 years of being together and still enjoying the moment.”Jerzy Gregorek (S.117) – und genau sollte Ehe bzw. Beziehung aussehen und nicht anders!• “Friendship is born at the moment when one person says to another: What? You too? I thought I was the only one.” C. S. Lewis (S.121)• “Life will present you with unexpected opportunities, and you won’t always know in advance which are the important moments. Above all, it’s the quality of your relationships that will determine the quality of your life. Invest in your connections, even those that seem inconsequential. (…) Always take the time to acknowledge people – and not just when you know you have something to gain. If you show interest in them, they will be interested in you. People react to kindness with kindness, to respect with respect. Relationships – even brief ones – are doorways to opportunity.”Esther Perel(S. 180) – so und nicht anders geht man mit Menschen um!• “Friendships are supposed to support your growth, not hold you back. End the ones that hold you back, and be curious about what kind of people you’re drawn to next.”Kristen Ulmer(S. 550)WORK• “Careers where you’re the CEO include anything where you’re trying to start your own company, anything where you’re trying to make your name in the arts and win fans, anything where you’re doing freelance work – paths where you’re driving the ship of your own career and making the big decisions.” Tim Urban (S.46)• “I’ve only ever had one house motto: ‚Fuck You, pay me.‘… Things like exposure, or reaching new audiences, or having a great experience are all well and good, but they don’t pay the rent or put food on the table. Know your worth.” Veronica Belmont (S. 100)• “Don’t wait until you get a job to do the thing you want to be doing. For most careers, showing that you have initiative by working on projects related to your future is a great way to get a foot in the door. If you want to be a writer or journalist, start keeping a blog that you update regularly!”Veronica Belmont (S. 103)• “Always take jobs for which you are not qualified; that you will ineviteably learn something.” Esther Dyson (S. 245)BODY• “The way to get the strongest is to lift what is optimal and not what is maximal.”• “I love my routine and when nothing upsets my routine. My dad used to tell me, ‘I know never to die and have my wake or funeral on a lifting day, because I know you won’t be there.”• The biggest surprise was that I took my time and made a little, tiny bit of progress four or five times a year. When you make little progress four times a year over 28 years, you’re going to be pretty good at what you do. I never thought, “Oh, I have to lift X amount of weight or accomplish Y.” I just thought, “I’m going to get better, and this is what I have to do to get better. These are my weaknesses; let me correct my weaknesses.”They don’t take their time. They don’t look at the long-term goals, the big picture. I’ll ask kids an old question every old guy asks: “Where do you want to be in five years? Where do you see yourself?” If I apply that question to lifting, a lot of people don’t get it. They’re only thinking, “What am I going to do within six months?” They don’t realize that if you make the whole body strong in every aspect that you possibly can over a period of just three years, you’ve created an impenetrable machine that won’t get hurt, that won’t break down, that you can have for the rest of your life because you followed what you’re supposed to at the beginning.• “You only have so many max attempts in your body over your lifetime. Why waste them in the gym?”Ed Coan (S. 309f)WISDOM / LIFE ADVICE• “I’m probably hopelessly out of date but my advice I get real-world experience: Be a cowboy. Drive a truck. Join the Marine Corps. Get out of the hypercompetitive “life hack” frame of mind. I’m 74. Believe me, you’ve got all the time in the world. You’ve got ten lifetimes ahead of you. Don’t worry about your friends “beating” you or “getting somewhere” ahead of you. Get out into the real dirt world and start failing. Why do I say that? Because the goal is to connect with your own self, your own soul. Adversity. Everybody spends their life trying to avoid it. Me too. But the best things that ever happened to me came during the times when the shit hit the fan and I had nothing and nobody to help me. Who are you really? What do you really want? Get out there and fail and find out.”Steven Pressfield (S.6) – das habe ich mir damals notiert als ich das Buch im Dezember gelesen habe und dann bin ich mal einfach raus nach Thailand!!!• “What you seek is seeking you.” RUMI (S.18)• “We spend far too much time complaining about the way things are, and forget that we have the power to change anything and everything.”Bozoma Saint John (S.38)• “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Ghandi (S.38)• “People say that we’re all seeking a meaning for life. I don’t think that’s what we’re really seeking. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive.”Joseph Campbell (S. 112)• „A belief: the belief that we are all mini gods. I mean this in the sense of creators; in a way that should not feed our ego but our consciousness. This means the entire universe is not just outside but also within us. We have unlimited power – the power to slove any problems facing us or facing others.” Jerome Jarre (S. 261)• “The great majority of that which gives you angst never happens, so you must evict it. Don’t let it live rent-free in your brain.” Peter Guber (S. 280)• “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” Leo Tolstoy (S. 334)• “The key to a great life is simply having a bunch of great days. So you can think about it one day at a time.”Mr. Money Mustach (S. 376) – so und nicht anders lebt man das Leben!!!• “Every day is an opportunity to create a living masterpiece.” Michael Gervais (S. 412)• “The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.” G.k. Chesterton (S. 418)• “He suffers more than necessary, who suffers before it is necessary.” Seneca (S. 513)So dies sind meine Lieblingszitate. Ich hoffe ihr könnt euch auch etwas davon rausnehmen und seid motiviert dieses Buch zu lesen. Anhand der langen Zusammenfassung kann wohl jeder erkennnen, dass dies eine Leseempfehlung für jeden Menschen auf diesem Planeten ist, da ich überzeugt bin, dass jeder davon etwas rausnehmen kann!!!
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