Two former Harvard faculty--one an internationally-recognized negotiator and conflict
management expert from Harvard Law the other a leading behavioral neurologist and cutting-edge
scientist from Harvard Med--join forces to introduce conflict resilience : the radical act of
sitting in and growing from conflict to break the bad habits that sabotage our politics
workplaces and most important relationships. Conflict is getting the better of us. From our
homes and community centers to C-Suites and Congress disagreements are happening everywhere
with increasing frequency and are being treated like zero-sum games that allow little margin
for error and even less room for productive conversations. This puts a tremendous and untenable
strain on our most important relationships and institutions. Unable or unwilling to negotiate
conflict with skill we ignore it or avoid it for as long as possible when we are forced to
face it we escalate everyday disagreements and temporary flare-ups as if they're
life-and-death. Neither approach addresses underlying issues promotes stronger relationships
or yields satisfying results. But there is a solution: a combined skillset and mindset that Bob
Bordone calls "conflict resilience"--the ability to sit genuinely with and grow from
disagreement. In this powerful hopeful book he and renowned neurologist Joel Salinas MD
combine the inner mechanics of conflict--literally what's going on in our bodies and our brains
during moments of distress--with a groundbreaking three-step framework for how to navigate it:
NAME (& dig deep)EXPLORE (& be brave)COMMIT (& own the conflict) In a time of increasing
polarization where consensus agreement and problem-solving can sometimes feel elusive
Conflict Resilience provides practical solutions to a common dilemma: How do you handle
disagreements and differences with integrity while finding a way to create strong deep and
lasting relationships? Conflict Resilience is not another book about conflict resolution nor
is it about problem solving. Conflict Resilience combines practical applications of advanced
conflict management and study of the human brain to teach anyone how to turn conflict and
negotiation into an act of union. This book provides the most cutting-edge and
scientifically-grounded tools for driving agreement when possible and for empowering you to
disagree better when the differences cut deep and the relationships matter most. This is a
chance to bring people together and an invitation to radically transform how we interact with
our friends and families our co-workers our students and our neighbors--anyone with whom we
find ourselves in disagreement.
